Encouragement

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EYES

I looked into my wife’s eyes the other day and realized that the glow was gone. The brightness had been replaced by this dull foggy stare. I’ve always thought that one of my main responsibilities, as her husband was to keep the glow bright. By this I could tell how well I was doing. They tell us that our soul shines through our eyes and depending on its glow it will show us how well we are doing. It was then that it dawned on me that I had hurt her and quenched her spirit.

The sparkle is gone and I was the one who had taken it away. The question now is, do I have the courage to enter that deep holy sactuary of her soul and find those smouldering embers. Is it possible that I can fan them back into the fire that once was there? Do I even know how?

Can the thief that stole her joy and wounded her dignity be trusted enough to replace what was stolen? Would she even open her heart to the one that wounded her in the first place? I have trampled on something holy and have defiled my most loved treasure. To suck the life out of someone you love is the worst of sins. Why is it that we so often do this to the people we love the most? What demon drives us to this insensitivity and blindness? With me it is my wife, maybe for you it’s your child or your mate. In any case,” have you looked into their eyes lately?”

The only way I can think of to renew her life is to give her mine. She never wanted a big house, a fancy car or money. All she ever really wanted was me. But I wasn’t there. Somehow, I thought that I was proving how much I loved her by how hard I worked and the lifestyle we enjoyed. I never saw that all she really wanted was to be near me. Probably because I never thought that I was good enough to want or that great to be around. It was our time together that she needed. She needed my ears to listen, my arms to hold, my hands to give a reassuring touch and my voice to gently encourage. If two truly become one when they marry, and if one is wounded then how can the other be complete? I really don’t understand why she would even want me around. I’m around me all the time and I don’t enjoy it one bit!

Maybe, just maybe, it’s because deep inside her, she really does love me. Maybe just maybe it’s time I learned the proper way to love her back. With honor, gentleness and true concern for what she deeply needs. She needs me! She needs my arms to hold her, my ears to really listen, my eyes to show approval and my voice to sing her praises.

I know I can start the fire again if I take the time to listen, to hold, to comfort and to praise her. I can begin to let her know in a thousand different ways how much she means to me. I need to let her feel that she is the most important person in my life and without her I am nothing.

Today I’ll try a hug. Who knows, someday FIRE!

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