Marriage
I have been very blessed in my life to have been given a Godly husband. When I was younger I was married before. I was not living for the Lord at the time of my first marriage and did not know the incredible love that you can experience from a man whose heart is fully sold out to God.
Let me tell you a little about my husband so that you can understand why I feel so blessed. He is just a good ole country boy. We met through my sister and her husband. Jessie is his brother. Yes! Sisters married brothers!
Jessie is the youngest of 10 children. He was not raised in church much, but did attend Vacation Bible School in the summer when able to. When we met, neither one of us were attending church at the time. I was raised in church and had walked away from church as a teenager, always loving God, but turning to the way of the world. My sister and her husband tried to set us up, but at the time Jessie was only interested in hunting, not a relationship. He saw me for the first time in my sister’s wedding. He says he wanted to kick himself for not going out with me.
By that time, I was already dating my first husband; we married and had a little girl. Jessie says he waited 7 years on me, after seeing me that day. He bought property to put a home on with me in mind, hoping someday there would be a chance. You can see already that he is a sweet talker. After 2 yrs, my first marriage failed and I decided to live it up and I did according to the world. Jessie started talking to me when I would go to my sister’s house. His personality won me over. He has a great sense of humor and loves to pick on people to this day. It’s a good picking though. I still after all these years, tend to giggle at him and encourage him, which makes it worse on our family and friends. He has definitely kept our life interesting.
After a year of marriage, God really dealt with me that we needed to be in church. I gave my heart back to God on my way to work one morning. Jessie received Christ at a program called Heaven’s Gates and Hell’s Flames. From that time, our lives have changed dramatically. Jessie’s talk and attitude changed, as did mine. We grew in the Lord year after year. I can truly say that our love has become more deep and intimate than I could ever imagine.
Jessie has always spoiled me from the beginning, which attracted me to him. Always watching over me, walking beside me, making sure I was watching my step. He will literally walk in front of me now and if there is a place to stumble, he turns around to watch me so that I will not fall. He always helps me in and out of vehicles or boats. When walking the trails in the woods, he holds my hand to keep me steady all the way. He is most certainly very romantic in the way he cares for me. At home, he won’t even let me stand in a chair and hang a picture. His tools are a NO NO for me unless he is right by my side.
All men have their days when they have ups and downs and Jessie is no exception. But he does not stay that way. He allows God to work through him and encourage him and guide him, so he doesn’t have to stay that way. Let me share with you some of the spiritual things that I have seen in my honey over the years, which is what I think we should see in all Godly men.
• He puts God first in everything. Big or small.
• He reads his Bible daily.
• He Prays daily.
• He is a very dedicated member of the church and active in many ministries.
• He has trained up our children in a Godly, Biblical way.
• He takes care of my parents and any family member that need him, which I believe is his ministry too. A ministry of helps!
• He is very sensitive to the need of others, especially the elderly and children.
• He is careful about what he allows in his spirit.
• He looks for ways to bless others.
• He turns or walks away from anything that is not Godly.
• He is bold for the Lord and trying to help others to have a relationship with God.
• He is a worshiper. I love to see those hands raised to God, and sometimes a tear will trickle down his face and I see the sensitivity to the Lord in his heart.
• He lives the life at home that he lives on Sunday in the church.
• He is sensitive to my needs. Emotionally and Physically!
• He is always careful with his words to me and to others.
• He always puts me first, after God of course.
• He always makes sure that I feel beautiful and loved, because I have been very insecure in the past.
• He tries to keep himself out of the positions that would lead him in to temptation, or me to wrong thinking or jealousy. In today’s society, that is so important.
• He is aware of the things that can easily lead a spouse astray.
• He knows not to be anywhere with another woman alone.
• He does not txt or take phone calls from women that I do not know about.
• He makes sure my needs are met to the best that he can, whether it’s my car, something at home, my medicine, or my health.
• He is my best friend, and we want to do everything together, even after all this time.
• He does without, so that the children and I are taken care of.
• His heart and goodness are never ending.
I love my husband, he is not perfect, but he strives to live for the Lord everyday of his life. God is the first love in my life. He is the one who has blessed me with this man to take care of me. I know from whom my blessings flow. To me, as I look at all the marriages around me, I believe what we have is not the normal, that is sad. I write this hoping that a man or woman will read this and maybe their eyes will be opened to what a true relationship should be like. God said, Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Ephesians 5:24-26
Our relationship with Christ is similar to our marriage. The Bible refers to the church as the bride of Christ. He longs for that relationship of personal intimacy with us. He wants us to be closer to Him than to our own spouse. Imagine if you went through your marriage and never talked, never invested in getting to know your spouse, their wants, desires, what pleases them, spending time with them, just being in love with them, you would draw apart. It’s the same with God! We need to invest these same things in Him that we do a spouse. More! Much more!
Think of all the things that you can do to let your spouse see the love you have for them and then do even more for God. He is so worth it. You see, God has used Jessie to show me what an intimate love is. He has shown me the comparison between the love of a Godly man and that of a Christian to God. God’s love is far beyond what Jessie can give me. I don’t think we can even fathom his love for us because it is beyond our realm of understanding. I don’t ever want to take God’s love for granted. I want to show Him everyday of my life, my love for him. God has used Jessie for me. I want God to use me for others.
So when you look at what characteristics are in a Godly man, look at God. We are to be Christ like. So if a heart is truly reflecting the love of God, then the outcome is a Godly man.
Kim Duckett
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