Barbara, Point 15 I believe is the key phrase in this piece. As a wife for only 7 years I find that 1st submitting to God makes the submission to my husband so easy. It also helps with all other forms of human submission. Without God we struggle in our own will and never seem to make headway But with God we see that all things are possible.
15. Submit to the Lord first, then to each other.
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Love and Blessings