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Previous Challenge Entry (Level 2 – Intermediate)
Topic: Work (07/27/06)
SURVIVING ROMEO
(Dedicated to ALL teenage girls)




The dating game is HARD work!

Since the beginning of time, girls have been hurt in relationships. Men think they can walk all over women, and they do. Mostly the “players” are to blame. You know, those guys who think they can mess with a girl’s heart. They usually have a bunch of females hanging on their arms; the trophy girls they keep around just in case they don’t have a pretty face to take out for dinner on a Friday night. It’s sickening really. Who do they think they are? They are NOT Gods, they are merely men, small men. They are bloodsuckers who have such low self-esteem that they feed off women to boost their own egos.

The nice girls are usually attracted to the bad boys but they soon become their victims, and that is a shame. It’s these sweet souls that get crushed, and harden up because of the damage done to their hearts. If this doesn’t contribute to hardening of the arteries, I don’t know what does. They become brittle and defensive, afraid to take another risk because they don’t want anyone close to their heart for fear it will get hurt again.

Shame on the guy who treats a girl like a possession. Oh yes, they claim to have your best interest at heart, but do they really? All they want is to look good to their friends. But they’re imbeciles! Their friends already know what kind of person they are. Everyone around them can see what they’re really like. They are only fooling themselves, and in the end they won’t have any friends left at all. These type of guys are toxic. They have so much charisma it literally makes you sick. They lure their prey in with their incessant flirting, and then they suck you dry, and spit you out.

It takes WORK to spot this type of Romeo, but spot him you must.

Later on in life these type of guys end up divorced, sometimes several times, all the while playing the victim telling people they were SO misunderstood. Well, boohoo! They are a product of their own demise. If they ever do manage to keep a girl, she will be such a pushover, he will literally PUSH her over with his fist because she will be such a docile creature that she will take anything from anyone. And you know what? He will keep pushing the limits too with abuse, infidelity, and who knows what else.

So, how do you survive Romeo? You wise up girls, (especially those sweet people- pleasers) you have to WORK at un-sweetening yourself. You MUST be mean even though it goes against every fibre of your being, even though it pains you every time you say something nasty. Force yourself to get mad, and if you can’t do that, force yourself not to care. You see, that is the whole problem. Sweet girls care TOO much. Why would that even be a problem? It shouldn’t be. It should be that these girls are valued more highly than others because of their special qualities –but unfortunately they’re not.

So, to be a survivor, I’m afraid one must guard the heart, and that in itself hurts a great deal because sweet people-pleasers wear their hearts on their sleeves. The wrong place, but appropriate for THEM because they give a piece of it away to everyone they meet. The only problem is, a greedy person (like those bloodsucking “players”) will take a piece and go back for seconds without giving anything in return. With enough of that going on, the sweet girl soon finds herself with an aching heart, worn out an abused.

So don’t GIVE yourself away little sweetie. Protect that which is most precious to you: YOUR HEART. It is that tender quality that makes you special and don’t you forget it. If you give it away so much that you deplete your uniqueness, you will lose yourself in the process, and in a way, you (or what makes you, you) WILL DIE!
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Helen Paynter
08/07/06
A very interesting perspective. Not sure I agreed with it all, but it certainly gave me pause for thought. Thanks
Joanne Sher 
08/07/06
I'll bet this was VERY cathartic to write! I can tell you put your whole heart in this. Like Helen, I'm not sure I agree with your views, but you express them well!
Kaylee Blake 
08/07/06
I see that you really believe what you write and you poured your heart and soul into it. But I don't think all men are that way and you paint them in a very negative light. Also, do "sweet girls" really have to be tough and mean and say nasty things? Why can't we just be less naive to potentially dangerous men?
Jan Ross
08/09/06
I think I get the gist of what you're saying. I sense this comes from a broken heart, one who has been "played", one who has gotten caught up by a "Romeo" and left by the wayside. Sometimes our writing reflects our own life's experiences -- good and bad. I would encourage you to counsel teenagers not only to watch for pure and true loving relationships, but to also trust God to guide them in their relationships. I would also encourage you to counsel teens to allow God to heal their broken hearts if they have been emotionally abused. I think if you took this approach in offering counsel to teens you would give them something solid to cling to if they find themselves broken and hurt! As a women's minister, I encourage you to develop this passion you have to help teenage girls! Please feel free to contact me if you want to know more! Again, I think you have a good start about giving the teen girls something to think about before getting caught up in a relationship. Thank you for sharing your heart so openly! God bless! :)
Kathleen Morris
08/11/06
Thank you all for commenting on this article I wrote. It was NOT written from my own personal experience. I merely threw a lot of other people's past and present experiences together and twisted it around some. It doesn't reflect any person in particular nor was it intended to take a jab at the male gender. I thought I'd try something dramatic and creative...that is all. I've been happily married to MY Romeo for almost 19 years but I know there are some out there that this speaks to, and that is why I am a writer...to do just that.