Marriage
STOP, DON’T! DON’T DO IT, WHATEVER YOU MAY BE GOING THROUGH DON’T DO ANYTHING YOU’D REGRET,JUST SPARE THE TIME AND READ THIS!
This evergreen oldie came on, on the radio… 1979 R/B by KOOL and THE GANG, a big favourite of mine. Brings back floods of memories and I just could not help but listen attentively to its lyrics and ponder on with a deeper meaning in mind while wondering how songs of now compare with those of that time… A lot of violence in today’s songs and music, no sense, sexual innuendoes and to top it all the youth, just by listening and watching some musical videos, get amoral and aggressive stimulus.
Marriage is indeed supposed to be like God describes it… A MAN under God’s command during a phase in his life is to LEAVE from one point AND CLEAVE elsewhere permanently. That’s it, simple instruction, no additions, and no extensions and if you can’t or you aren’t ready, YOU SHOULDN’T!
Apostle Paul did it (1 Corinthians 7:7-9).
The tidal WAVE of evil violent and bitter separations, divorces and even murder happening in marraiges around the globe is mind boggling and staggering, this in the recent past has weighed upon my mind and urged me to write this piece with the, “It's too hot, too hot, lady We gotta cool this anger What a mess we made So long ago you were my love Oh my love” ringing in my head for a long time even after the song had stopped.
This is really the process that leads to break-up and break-down in MANY cases, getting carried away with the moment, not pausing to respond to changes in the time(taking stock), environment and circumstances and making a BIG MESS AT THE END OF THE DAY.
Selfish feelings and desires do not shield children... these innocent ones who are products of such marriages; from the tornado and whirlwind of pain and chaos that follow bitter fights.
Did anyone STOP in the name of LOVE to think and look back, do checks-and-balances to avoid the AVOIDABLE? I’m guessing NO!
Flyin' high we never took the time
To stop and feel the need
Funny how those years go by Changing you, changing me!
Truly TRUE! These words above! There was a time that spouse, that is now regarded as PUBLIC enemy number one was the most important in your daily living until the real public ENEMY NUMBER ONE CREEPED in unknowingly AND PLANTED tares of DISCORD changing you both or one of you.
The way to avoid this is: FIRST NOT to be unequally yoked (the battle is better fought on the same side of the fence!)
Secondly PRAYER is the key for the right LIFE’S PARTNER CHOICE,if you are in it already… prayer is still the key!
God’s help is very necessary. As the years go by, learn to listen to one another, learn to be sensitive to and respect the other person’s needs, wants, likes and DISLIKES, be appreciative of the good things and encourage when the chips are down. Do not shrug off complaints (silent or loud) as nagging or it- does- not- matter- moments… this is to be SELFLESS, the opposite of this is SELFISH and it is not in LOVE’s vocabulary!
Making decisions is a combined venture not a ONE MAN BUSINESS in a marriage, plan and pray about issues that concern you and you both, TOGETHER!
That third party is anyone outside of you two,it does not matter if that one EXTRA wheel is BIOLOGICAL and genetically related, even your children! Anyone who could be a potential clog in the wheel of progress and general BUSYBODY may end up being SATAN’S EMISSARY, as his mission in this times is to desecrate, demolish and annihilate marital structures still standing.
The world around us is always changing and evolving in every way that things change and practically nothing stays the same except GOD ALMIGHTY (Hebrews 13:8; John 1:1,14)and in Him LOVE WILL STAND THE TEST OF TIME (True love anyway!)… Romans 12:9; 13:10; 1Corinthians 13:13; Ephesians 4:2; Ephesians 5:33; Proverbs 10:12; 17:17; 1 John 4:8; Matthew 22:23-33.
FULL LYRICS OF KOOL AND THE GANG 1979 –TOO HOT!
At seventeen we fell in love
High school sweethearts
Love was so brand new
We took the vows of man and wife, forever, for life
I remember how we made our way
A little patience, the times we prayed
Can't imagine that this love is through
Feeling the pain, girl, when you lose
Oh, it's too hot, too hot, lady
Gotta run for shelter, gotta run for shade
It's too hot, too hot, lady
Gotta cool this anger, what a mess we made
So long ago, you were my love, oh my love
Flyin' high we never took the time
To stop and feel the need
Funny how those years go by
Changing you, changing me
I remember love's fever
In our hearts, girl, and in our minds
Can't imagine that this love is through
Feeling the pain, girl, when you lose
Oh, it's too hot, too hot, lady
Gotta run for shelter, gotta run for shade
It's too hot, too hot, lady
Gotta cool this anger, what a mess we made
So long ago, you were my love, feeling the pain
Oh, it's too hot, too hot, lady
Gotta run for shelter, gotta run for shade
It's too hot, too hot, lady
Gotta cool this anger, from this mess that we made
Oh, it's too hot, too hot, lady
Gotta run for shelter, gotta run for shade
It's too hot, so, so hot, lady
Gotta cool this anger, oh, I've gotta cool this mess we made
It's so, so hot, baby, yes, it's so hot
I just can't take it, I can't stand no more, baby
We were once lovers, we took our vows
For man and wife forever
Oh baby, please won't you listen?
It hurt me so bad, but I know I've got to leave
It's too hot
Gotta run for shelter,baby, I gotta run for shade
It's too hot, it's so, so hot, lady
Gotta cool this anger, gotta cool this mess we made
It's so warm, so warm, it's hot baby, yeah
Gotta run for shade, go home, my baby
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