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Previous Challenge Entry (Level 2 – Intermediate)
Topic: Wow! (03/11/10)

By Shann Hall-LochmannVanBennekom


My husband and I were going through a rough patch in our marriage. It just seemed like we didn’t agree on anything anymore. There were many times when I wondered how we even managed to get past our first date, we were so different. In some aspects our differences complimented one another. It was handy in raising the kids; we were able to come to a happy medium where they weren’t too spoiled or too neglected. But the last couple of years things had been getting harder. We weren’t even fighting any more; we were more or less just living in the same house. By not settling our disagreements right away, I had allowed plenty of anger to build up inside of me, I incorrectly assumed if I ignored it, things would get better and we would live happily ever after.

It doesn’t take a marriage counselor to predict how that turned out. I finally had my blow up and we had one whopper of an argument. I was thinking divorce was the only possible answer. After my husband left for work, I was sitting in the bathroom alone, I cried out in anguish to God, “Please help me. I can’t do this anymore.” I thought about all the things we’ve argued about and how different we are. As I looked up, I cried out in pain, “I bet you think this is really funny, huh God? You with Your sense of humor, making men and women so different.”

In between my sobs, I heard God’s answer very clearly. This wasn’t His intention at all. Amidst the wadded up tissues and the wastebasket I had kicked over in my anger, I had a wonderful epiphany. I’ve always believed God has a wonderful sense of humor and to prove my point to others, I would give them the following example; God made men to sexually peak at around age 18 to 20, but a women doesn’t reach her sexual peak until 30-35. The way I saw it, only a God with a sense of humor would arrange that.

But in that moment of silence in my bathroom, another thought came to mind. Perhaps that arrangement was to serve another purpose entirely. One of the problems in today’s society is the view that many people have about intercourse. It is common for some people to have casual relations. The television shows portrays teens having sex, early and with multiple partners. There’s even a “rule” that states on the third date, one can expect sex.

But as Christians, we know that wasn’t part of God’s plan when he made man and woman. In Matthew 19 verses 4-12, Jesus explains to the Pharisees that God made man and woman to leave their parents and become as one. I started thinking, maybe the point of the difference in age when men and women reach their sexual peak isn’t a joke, but a way to get humans to embrace monogamy and stay with their one true love.

The woman fulfills the man’s sexual needs, not because she is always in the mood, but because she loves him so much she wants to make him happy. The man realizes this and loves the woman enough to want to stick around so he can be there to fulfill all of her needs.

Wow, wouldn’t it be a wonderful place if the world did just that? She fulfills him and he stays to fulfill her. When my husband came home, we talked about my revelation and decided we would always be here for one another, until death us do part.

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AnneRene' Capp03/18/10
Loved your candid story about what WE ALL go through. Especially liked your epiphany...really got me to thinking :)

And yes, I completely agree about God having a sense of humor!
Maria Kana Santos03/19/10
You've shared a wonderful lesson here. This reminded me of 1 Cor.7:33-34. It's so sweet how the ending (or just the beginning) turned out for husband and wife. Thank you for sharing. :)
Jan Ackerson 03/21/10

I wonder if you'd consider writing this in a more fiction-like style--like a story, with dialog, perhaps even in third person. In that way, you'll be "showing, not telling", and we'll get to know both characters better through their words.

This would be great as the starter of a discussion in a women's Bible study.
Joan Campbell03/21/10
What makes this teaching strong is that you share so honestly and openly about your own struggles in your marriage. In that way I think you create an immediate bond with your reader who has their own struggles. Well done for tackling this difficult topic.
Beth LaBuff 03/21/10
I totally agree, "God does have a sense of humor." :) It's encourageing to read how you, with God's help, worked thourgh this time in your marriage. Your title is perfect!
Gregory Kane03/22/10
I can't help feeling that your piece should have finished with the two of you heading for the bedroom.
A good piece with an excellent moral. BTW it's complement with an 'e' and not an 'i'.
Darren Pettis03/22/10
Thanks for sharing your story. I enjoyed reading this.
Carol Slider 03/22/10
God has a sense of humor, no doubt about it! Thank you for this honest look at one of the issues that can divide a couple if not addressed in the right way.
c clemons03/24/10
Not sure if I agree with the analogy of the reason given why men and women peak sexually at different times in their lives. I definitely don't think it was by God's sense of humor. By design yes, humourous? Keep writing.
Jean Beier03/25/10
Thank you for sending me congratulations for my article making 8th in my level in the top ratings. I hadn't checked the list yet. After your message I checked the list and I noticed you made 3rd. Congratulations to you! I read your piece and enjoyed it. You write very well.