Communication
Have you learned a lesson that could benefit others? If your answer is yes, then use your gift to share that pearl of wisdom. Let us help each other to grow. But be mindful of Matthew 7:6, ‘…Don't throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you.’
I have been meaning to share some pieces on Faithwriters and Facebook (not necessarily the same pieces for each forum). However, I held back so I could clear my head with regards to some issues I’ve been dealing with, out of which came a very strong critical view of my person. I shared with you in ‘Learning from Past Mistakes,’ three (3) of the twelve (12) points that found me analysing the situation and finally rejoicing as I learned from the mistake and found the hidden pearl. It leads me to say the following:
I do like to get feedback and I prefer the kind that edifies instead of the kind that attacks my person or character and the people I am connected to. Despite the ongoing attacks, and recently the severance of relationships, I do not want to ignore the important/critical advice which wisdom would have me decipher from the criticism. It all helps me to adjust my attitude and therefore helps to develop my craft in becoming a better writer and person in general.
This, therefore, is my humble request:
- If you find that you are offended by anything that I share, please take time to think about it before replying. Some of the pieces I share do not need a reply, they require a response. First, think about the reason you are offended by it. Does it have anything to do with me as an individual, a writer or my role (as a wife, a mother or a teacher)? If it is something you need to address with me then please do so either by commenting or sending me a private message. I actually prefer that you comment so I can have some accountability as well as help from likeminded individuals and so that the temptation to attack instead of discuss may either be minimised or eliminated.
- When I share personal testimonies, I would like to ask the believers I’m connected to, especially my prayer warriors, to watch out for what will be revealed through those articles that may need an injection of grace as well as areas that may reveal a weakness that needs a dose of prayer and encouragement to move forward.
Why I share the pieces that I share with you:
When I share I think of various groups from Parents to couples to leaders. I would also like my younger friends and relatives (my little sister, my nephew, nieces, cousins and god-children) to get to know me a little better and be aware of lessons I’ve learned that may benefit them on their journey as I am not physically travelling with them through the stages of their teen and young adult years. I am aware that teens and young adults have questions they need answers to, and won’t always ask those questions due to certain fears or their lack of confidence. So I try to share things I know they’ll have an interest in.
I use my personal experience in trying to help the young ones see both the positive and negative consequences of the choices we make in life. In doing so, my prayer is that they will use wisdom in making the choices they have to make—informed decisions—having looked at the pros and cons and that they will make the right choice for each situation they face. With personal experiences they just might be able to relate, in some way or another, to the imperfect Janice who has been saved by grace and is determined to continue on the journey towards maturity. I pray also that they can see that they too can be forgiven for the wrong they do and have true peace within to move forward with their lives.
Why I am requesting your help:
I am an imperfect being, saved by grace and learning more each day how to use my gift of exhortation—encouraging / teaching others through written form or speech. I do encourage others to use the tongue wisely as I take it seriously for myself. I have seen too much pain resulting from lack of self-control with the tongue. Just one word taken out of context or used inappropriately can cause the breakdown of marriages, families, friendships etc. Mistakes are inevitable and so I would appreciate it if the friends and relatives who are more mature (emotionally and spiritually) could bring to my attention anything you happen to come across, that I say or share that may not represent what I stand for as a follower of Christ. If it can help others in the context that it is posted, please refer to it in the comments so I can follow-up there.
To anyone giving advice or making corrections:
Please be gentle. I’m a delicate flower. It registers better when correction comes from a gentle heart—a place of compassion. Please apply grace in your correction to either my posts or the comments of others. If it is something that you deem inappropriate for this space (whether on Faithwriters or Facebook) please state why you find it inappropriate. I may agree with you and will either amend or remove the post depending on its nature.
Over the years of sharing, I can count the few who have confronted me in a negative way, regarding my writing. I’ve had more constructive critiquing/ criticism which helped me to develop/sharpen my skill. I do not take it as a sign that I am doing right all the time, especially after a few statements I’ve heard from a few relatives over the past few months. Sometimes silence speaks louder than words. I have often made a choice to run away from speaking on or writing about certain topics because I know the connotations attached to such subject areas. However, I am watching some of the people I’m connected to sinking in such mire as I am called to highlight and show God’s way of escaping. It therefore convicts me of my sin of being disobedient to the Holy Spirit’s leading of my life. I intend on correcting that error now and moving forward.
I look forward to interacting with those of you who will continue to engage and would like to move forward with me into the next phase of the journey. For those of you who are heading in another direction, I hope that you have found something of value, from my sharing, that can help you on your journey. Go forth and be fruitful!
"I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing" (John 15:5).
"You did not choose Me but I chose you, and appointed you that you would go and bear fruit, and that your fruit would remain, so that whatever you ask of the Father in My name He may give to you”(John 15:16).
Stay blessed!
Your Sister in Christ,
Janice s Ramkissoon.
[email protected]
____Notes: This is part three of a three part article. Please follow the links, if you would like to read the previous parts: Part 1: Learn From Past Mistakes ~ http://www.faithwriters.com/article-details.php?id=179965 | Part 2: Stop! Search For That Pearl ~ http://www.faithwriters.com/article-details.php?id=179966
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